Coping with Stage 4 Breast Cancer After Recent Loss

Stay positive. You can beat this. So sorry for your loss

Sorry for your loss. Hearing stage 4 is scary. I start Verzenio in a couple of weeks. I am supposed to take it for 2 years. I am not looking forward to it. 😊

I am so sorry for all you are enduring. I to am going through very similar situation. Stage 1 in 2021, suddenly stage 4. I don’t know how to grieve the life I won’t have AND stay strong enough to beat this. I would also appreciate any advice.

Karen, I appreciate your honesty!!! I am sorry that you lost ur husband - grief is a difficult thing to navigate especially since at this time it is complicated with recurrence, treatment and fear over ur own well-being. Stay strong, find a tribe, people that you can reach out to... Never give up... Sometimes the focus may change but never give up... (((HUGS)))

I watched my husband confront a terminal cancer for 4 years. He died in 2020. During those 4 years, his approach was to live in the present. By not focusing on an uncertain future, we had many good days together. As I now confront my own struggle with cancer, I'm following his lead. If the day is beautiful and sunny, I'm going to take a walk and enjoy the day. It doesn't mean you ignore the cancer. It's just not your main focus. Worry and fear will not change the outcome and can steal joyful moments.

So sorry for your loss. You can beat this. 😇

You and I have a lot in common. I lost my husband in 2015 and was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer in 2019. It metastasized to the bones right away. When there are few met sites, they call it oligometastatic, which has a better outcome than other stage 4 breast cancer. I have no evidence of disease right now. Those of us who have cancer have an opportunity to live life differently. We don’t put off relationship building or trips or living life with a focus on purpose. It is really the best way to live!!! I remarried and we take yearly honeymoons. We moved to be closer to family. This is the most satisfying time of my life !!!

2023 I lost my husband January 3 dealing with this, I had my normal mammogram in August. Abnormal findings and then everything was a whirlwind. Biopsy aspiration of 0.4 cm and it was TNBC. Chemo or Radiation no, November 2 I had a double mastectomy for 0.5 cm negative margins, no BRATS, Dx first stage 0, then 1b or 1a so. I have put it in the Lords hands. Now it has been a year and I’m still going.

Thank you everyone for your encouragement and kind words. I’m going to take Kathryn’s advice and live for today. As of today, I have 2 more radiation treatments and am still recuperating from the “nailing.” I’m hoping the radiation, fulvestrant and Verzenio will keep me going for years to come. Best wishes for all of you on your journeys. Stay strong!

Sorry for your loss. Sending love and prayers to you and your family. Remember that God is in control.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

I lost my husband in 2020 to cancer. He fought hard for three years. We both learned what we were made of. I was diagnosed with TNBC Oct. 2021. Had a lumpectomy, chemo and radiation. I’m not giving up. I’m gonna enjoy each day and deeply love those I love. Cherish, cherish, cherish. Life can deal major disappointment; however, I’m gonna fight in how I respond. Keep seeing that glass half FULL!

Omg you can beat this devil! Praying for you, my sincere condolences to your family about the passing of your dear husband 🙏🏽🥲. This has to be the hardest thing ever💝. I had a lumpectomy on my left breast stage 1 radiation just 3 treatments. I still have bad burning sharp pain in my breast The depression and anxiety was through the roof, my mind thoughts “ What if” ! I trust God I’m Praying hard for your strength and your grieving 😦. I know we are strangers but if you want to talk I’m here that’s the best kind of friends 👏🏽😊👋🏽🫂 Facebook Susanne Moore. You can messenger me😊

I am told, by my surgeon that the pain and breast discomfort is our “New Normal.” I’m a believer and know the sovereign nature of God. We are human, and will have anxiety regarding these issues. So, I’ve decided to enjoy life. It’s a conscious decision.

I am so sorry for your loss and I am amazed at your courage. You have touched so many with your strength and story. You need to do one day at a time, let go of anticipation, concentrate on the here and now. I know prayer works, so that is what I'll do for you.

Karen, you are not alone. Grieving will take the time you need for your husband as well as for your dis-Ease. I started my MBC journey in Jan 2016. I have bone Mets in all my bones except below my elbows or knees. I'm having a wonderful life enjoying my kids, grand girls, sisters and many very special friends. We're making sweet memories! I have had bad days, but I let them go and dwell on great days. I'm holding you up in prayer and love.

I'm so sorry for your lost, I am so scared because I was in treatment with letozole for eight years and now my doctors say I need to stop taking it, because my bones are damaged, I am now more than ever in my God hands

I’ve been on it 635 days with mim effects but I’m beginning to think it’s bc I’m well past menopause. It seems the women with worse effects are premenopausal or in menopause. I have another dexa scan pretty soon. I’ll see if my exercises, bone vits and collagen are worth the $. I’m 72/21@💕. I refuse to do bone drugs

I am very sorry for your loss. I am 42 and was diagnosed with stage 2 at my first mammogram. I am supposed to be taking Arimidex but I do not take it because I feel worse on it than I did going through chemo. I started going on YouTube and finding beginner yoga and spiritual meditation. I have a positive outlook. I think everyone’s case is different, but please don’t think of this as a death sentence. YOU CAN BEAT THIS!!! Work on yourself, take time to grieve, and let your inner guidance tell you what your body needs. I will keep you in my prayers and send you loving positive thoughts. You are a strong woman and keep fighting everyday. 🫶🏼💕🙏🏼🌅

Do not be sorry because we need more women speaking out and up about this insidious disease. And how to getting through this and conquer it. Because there are days where I wanna give up.

Hang in there too. Please don't ever give up on yourself. There is a certain time in life I get it where you just want to say screw it and pass away but I bet people that love you and care will pull u back up and back in life. We can't lose our zest for life. I have so many times that I just wanna die.

Omgosh Karen my heart is breaking for you 🥲. I’m so hopeful you have a lot of friends and family to help you through all of this heart ache and fear going into your surgery. Stay plugged in for moral support. Prayers are going out 🙏♥️

You’re so strong you got this I’m pray for your health family and strength 🫂🙏🏽

Stay strong just know that God got you. Life is unpredictable, we are either walking into a storm. Staying in a storm or getting out of one. Just know that God is with you. Be strong there is light at the end of the tunnel. Blessings

I'm so sorry for your loss.i understand losing your best friend.i have lost 4 along the way.also I wanted to ask u about u said fulvestrant.is that the shots u have to get? If so I was getting those for 4 years.they finally took me off of them which I'm glad because it's not an enjoyable experience getting them but thank God I have wonderful nurses to administer them.

Yes, Wreathie, the Fulvestrant is the shots. Not fun, but if it works I’ll deal with them. Starting on Kisqali in the next week or so, too.