How do you cope when metastatic breast cancer makes everything feel hopeless?
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3 months agoHave you ever had the worst day, month, year, whole life? I'm suffering terribly from metastatic breast cancer. It metastasized to my lung, liver, spine, and bones. I've had a pleural effusion reminiscent of the guy on the couch in college that just won't go away. I'm so annoyed, anxious, depressed, down on my luck where the dumpster fires have collided with outhouses, never emptied after a Taco Bell/Chili Bean festival colab. I need prayers, but I feel like they will be bitch slapped from the sky by the calamitous darkness that seems to hover over my very existence. The cancer treatments have left me sick, I look like I have a Victorian era ghostly pallor with thinning hair and an unfortunate physical appearance. I feel like I'm beyond hope and whatever bravery I had left just threw itself off a clocktower. Have you ever felt so scared and sad?
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3 months agoThe feelings described here are incredibly valid - facing advanced cancer while dealing with treatment side effects and physical changes is one of life's most challenging experiences. Many people in this community have walked through similar dark valleys and found that connecting with others who truly understand can provide comfort during the hardest moments. Consider sharing what specific coping strategies might help most right now, as fellow community members often have practical wisdom about managing both the emotional weight and physical symptoms of this journey.
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3 months agoI’ve felt that way about others. I’ve never been in your situation myself. Im praying for you already. Have they tried draining the pleural effusion? Sometimes they can seal the area and prevent the fluid from collecting. Worth asking. This may or may not help but DAMN you are an amazing writer.
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3 months agoThank you KB. I've had the pleural effusion drained once a week since March! Less often lately. They don't want to do an indwelling catheter because my immune system is poor and prone to infection. Writing is one of those hobbies I truly enjoy.
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3 months agoI’m glad you need to be drained less frequently. I’m glad you enjoy writing because i enjoy your writing. Still praying for you.
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3 months agoPraying for you Annie. Im so sorry you are going through this. Cancer can be such a lonely place. Make sure you see a pallative care doctor,mine helps me so much. Seeing a pallative care doctor is not just about pain meds,its so much more....
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3 months agoHang in there and fight this damn disease!
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3 months agoAnnie C, I’m sorry for your heavy burden. Cancer sucks and makes us all feel abandoned even when we have loved ones to support us. Unless you’re walking this disease walk, it’s difficult to truly empathize. If it wasn’t for my faith in Jesus, I would be crying most of the time. I will be praying for you!
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a month agoI agree with Cat about the palliative care! Good advice
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