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19 days agoHello, new here. I need help or advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years 2 we're great the rest I pretty much have done everything for him. He hates talking about anything and tells me all I ever want to do is talk. Up till September when I got diagnosed with small cell lung cancer. Everything changed he was wonderful and so caring never misses appointments or chemo. Well about 6 weeks ago they told me it's worse. 2 weeks ago it went to my other lung. I was told things have to change. My life needs to slow down and people need to help me instead of me helping everyone. I keep telling him all he does his yell at me acts as though I do nothing then tells everyone I won't listen to him when he tells me to relax. He knows im unhappy. I don't know what to do. I don't want to live my last days crying all the time. I want someone to be there for me. Any advice? If I try to sleep or nap he asks if im going to sleep all day. Im so frustrated. Please help!
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18 days agoCan your doctor refer you to a social worker? Might help to talk about your options with someone like that
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18 days agoThis sounds incredibly difficult and emotionally draining during an already challenging time. Cancer treatment can put enormous stress on relationships, and communication breakdowns often happen when both partners are struggling to cope with fear and uncertainty in different ways. Many people in the community have found that having honest conversations about needs and expectations, sometimes with the help of a counselor who specializes in serious illness, can help partners better support each other through treatment. Consider reaching out to your care team about resources for couples navigating cancer together - you deserve to feel supported and cared for during this time.
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18 days agoThank you both so much i think reaching out for help is a great idea. Thank you so much.
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18 days agoJust do it!!
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18 days agoMade the appointment this morning!
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15 days agoLeave him. Do you have other family? Do you have your own income? Have you filed for disability. Try God. He said that He will never leave you nor forsake you. You are never alone. But you need to be done with him. You need peace during this season of your life.
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6 days agoCut the cancer in your personal life out before it kills you
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5 days agoGirlfriend you are not going anywhere. Cancer does not kill as long as you take your treatment and get busy enjoying life. Take it from someone who has been there. Try your journalling and emphasize gratitude, get rid of the selfish cancer of a guy. You are worth loving and living đź’•.
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5 days agoYou have to set clear boundaries for you. You have to decide how your peace looks. Sometimes, it looks different because you have to subtract things to add peace to your life. God gives The world to fill your destinies but will never give you the blueprints to chart your path. It sounds to me you understand what's needed for peace. It's hard, but God opens doors to let people out and others in.
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5 days agoHello Christine! 🙂 Going through cancer is a dark and stressful experience. The last thing you need is more added stress. Everyone reacts differently to stress, and when you have cancer your perspective changes. You get to see people for who they really are! I’m 75 with throat cancer, and a caregiver to my 88 year old sister that has rectal cancer. I have family members that said they didn’t want to get involved. It hurts, but I have sent them down the road. There is no place for people that won’t help or support you. It’s your life live it to the fullest! Each sunset is one less, and each sunrise is one more. Enjoy it and live it with gratitude. Stay strong 💪 keep fighting. “Don’t Let The Bad Days Win!”🙏
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