Community Member
3 days agoA year ago I found out I had DCIS that dreadful call after my mammogram I hit the floor on my knees crying out to the lord WHY!? I’m 43 years old. This past year has been nothing but a blur, but now after treatments I am trying to navigate who I am now. I question everything I have done throughout my journey since my Doctors hadn’t informed me about this after cancer chapter. Right now I’m struggling with the dreadful 5 year pill 😫 I’ve tried both Anastrozole (which made me feel like I was 90, and my bones were screaming!, I couldn’t handle the side effects) and Exemestane, which again made me feel that same way like they just changed the name of the drug on the bottle. I’m at a standstill now. I don’t want to take these AI drugs if they’re going to make me feel like this! After my lumpectomy, radiation, and a full hysterectomy to eliminate my hormones I feel that I have put my body through enough to ensure that I will be cancer free, yet my Doctors are still pushing me to take these AI drugs and right now I feel my quality of life is more important than to live in that painful, awful state. I truly believe that I have done enough to prevent this from recurring yet my Doctor said “if you don’t take it, it will come back, and you will Die”! These words installed fear in me. Every morning when I take all my other 6 pills I look at my bottle of AI and I think about taking it out of fear of it coming back, and then remember how it made me feel and so I don’t take it. I understand that the doctors have to do protocol but my cancer was stage zero, my mass was 2mm contained and removed, followed by 20 rounds of targeted radiation therapy. At this point I’m torn..I’ve done my own research, asked as many questions as possible and am still educating myself on this and even looking into homeopathic treatment. I’ve asked my Doctors if they “over treat” DCIS in situ, if course he said No. Yet I am a believer in my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, I’ve done my best on making my decisions on how to go about treating my cancer by educating myself, believing in the Lord, and I’ve even read with or without treatments DCIS patients have a low % of recurrence 5% Initially my doctors told me to get a double mastectomy yet since my stage was so low my mass was small and contained I chose less invasive treatment I believe that not all doctors know what’s best and sometimes take the “old school” approach. I haven’t had the best bed side manner from my doctors and nurses. Telling me that if I don’t take the medication (that side effects outweigh the benefits for me) that they will see me in their offices again, and that I will be dead by 50 years old! I know doctors are smart but they must not teach bedside manner in college because every time I leave my doctors office I am in fear. Fear of recurrence. I definitely don’t want to go through this again, but I also don’t want to live in pain and agony either. I’ve read about homeopathic medicine and thinking and praying about going this route, or even just going to my check ups and getting my 3D mammograms. I’m torn. My heart and faith tell me that I will be okay not taking the AI yet my doctors install fear in me. I sometimes wonder if they’re trying to keep me sick with their pharmaceutical treatments. I haven’t seen an exploration date on my body, so how can they possibly predict my longevity? Anyone else struggling with this? Has anyone stopped taking their medication due to the side effects? Has anyone tried the homeopathic route? Life after cancer is really hard to navigate especially when your oncologist is so close minded and strict on protocol approach. Any advice or suggestions? May God watch over you, keep you healthy and heal your mind, body and soul Thank you 🙏
Community Member
3 days agoHi Amber.. I am 67 now and have had all the same prognosis as you.. I didn’t have a hysterectomy, just the surgery, radiation and now Letrozole..I have been on it for a year and a half. I absolutely hate it! I have discussed with my oncologist how much joint pain I have plus dizziness, off balance, terrible insomnia, low appetite, I think can I make it 3 and a half more years? So I go off it for a week sometimes 2…I feel like myself again! I have been taking magnesium glycinate which has helped so much..calms the body and anxiety to help sleep..I get tested every 6 months with ultra sound or mammogram which is fine to me..so far it has been clear🙏 They tell me there are other drugs to try but what I read the same symptoms or different ones..I really don’t want to have other symptoms.. I hate taking drugs. My family thinks I should go off of it since I am being tested every 6 months.. they don’t think they help my quality of life, want me to enjoy my life and not be miserable.if the next test shows something then it will be a different conversation… When I don’t have a lot going on I take it for awhile and go off if I want to be myself and enjoy..I know that is not right but I feel better.. I too pray to God for guidance and with my faith I hold on to that..I don’t want to sway you from what we are told to do but that is my story.. God Bless You as you navigate this terrible disease.. 💐🙏
Community Member
2 days agoThank you Rebecca I appreciate you sharing your experience. Helps me to know I’m not the only one who thinks this way. I’m really changing my eating habits and that’s a whole other story.. I’m trying to live a healthier lifestyle but that’s hard as well. I’m 43 going through menopause but thankfully I have a pill that helps with that. Overall this whole cancer/after cancer just stinks! 😠😫 I’m an only child and my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer at 46 and passed away at 49 so that also puts fear in me and I think a little PTSD I took the genetic testing and I don’t carry her BRAC gene so that’s good (mine is a hormonal cancer) but I took care of her the best I knew how but had to watch her fade away a pass and that was very difficult to watch. That is why I have been on top of my mammograms and trying to live a better lifestyle. I asked God “I dont care how I die( I know where I will be) just please don’t give me cancer” but I guess it was a wake up call to change my lifestyle. I take my medication in the morning and feel guilt and anxiety when I don’t take my AI, but I just don’t want the side effects. My family tells me not to take it as well they say throughout my journey the pill has been the worse part for me..so I can relate with you on that. I see my oncologist next month I’m sure he’s not going to be happy with me for not taking it. I just pray that it doesn’t come back and if it does then I will have to deal with it then I guess..Thank you for listening and responding I appreciate you. God Bless you your in my prayers 🙏
Community Member
2 days agoAmber thank you! You are very young to go thru all of this..I am very sorry about your Mother.. I did a genetics test because I didn’t want to know my daughter could get it..it is estrogen positive.. she won’t be at risk, I pray..my mom’s sister died of BC. Keep up the testing and enjoy your life.. My step daughter told me that her friends were told that it lingers in your body for a few months so I am going with that..I will take it but not always everyday. I too have changed my eating habits and feel that is a positive component plus exercise… Be well 💐.
Community Member
2 days agoMaking decisions about hormone therapy when facing severe side effects is one of the most challenging aspects of post-treatment life, and these concerns about quality of life versus potential benefits are completely understandable. Many patients in this community have navigated similar difficult conversations with their medical teams about treatment tolerance and have found it helpful to seek second opinions from other oncologists who might offer different perspectives or alternative approaches to managing side effects. The fear and uncertainty about these decisions is something many here can relate to, and connecting with others who have faced similar choices might provide valuable insight and support during this difficult time.
Community Member
2 days agoI would ask the oncologist why he/she thinks you are at such high risk.
Community Member
2 days agoAmber. I had the same DCIS stage 0. 4mm. Lumpectomy and 5 rounds of targeted radiation. Last year. My drs. seem to listen. No issues on mammograms. Had one Monday. I stopped Letrozole and my statin end of April. Needed a break as I was crippled. I feel normal whatever that is. Leaving for a work trip this afternoon and I need to be on top of my game. I am 74 BTW. I will try Letrozole again when I return. I think I will better assess the issues from a fresh perspective. Mom passed 2 yrs. ago just shy of 97. Neither she or her 4 sisters had BC. Their mom did. I am the outlier.
New to the community?
Create an account to connect with others navigating cancer.
© 2026 Outcomes4Me Inc. All rights reserved.