My Breast Cancer Diagnosis: More Advanced Than Expected

I found out Oct 22 I had breast cancer. I understand and empathize with your emotions. One night I was awake and started crying, I remember praying “I’m scared” I felt words of “feel your emotions and don’t deny how you are feeling.” I began to feel calm enough to go to sleep. So for me, recognizing and honoring how I was truly feeling was the answer for me. My heart goes out to you at this time.

This is not what I planned on doing in my old age. I never wanted going to the doctor as a hobby, every time I see a doctor I end up in more pain then they want to run the bill up. How expensive is this cancer? That is going to be a good reason not to do anything. Cost! No long term care funds. Mom had lung cancer then went into her eye, became blind and broke. She was in so much pain not worth living if this happens. I only went when I was pregnant and that was it. I need total spine surgery and refused (cost) and now breast cancer. How long to live if you just have a mastectomy? I can’t live with this vomiting prospect or feeling miserable as everyone writes about. What is to live for, (5 years of pill popping?) I don’t associate with kids and no grandkids or husband and no really funds for retirement (late 60’s) Why extend if it is this bad and nothing to look forward except vomiting? Sorry so negative.

Please don’t be so paralyzed by fear that you stop living. I hope your PET gives the oncologists enough details to do the most aggressive treatments that you can tolerate. Cancer’s not always a death sentence, and I would encourage you to do something proactive for your own mental health. That could be joining a support group, an exercise or nutrition class, even a book or hobby group. Ask your provider for proper medication to help with anxiety or depression, no shame in that!

I hear how scared you are and depressed. Is there a cancer support center where you live? They will help you make decisions and connect you with financial help. I know the future looks dismal to you but getting more information could help you make better decisions about what is possible. Also, your Dr could give you medicine for your depression and anxiety. Do you have a pastor to talk to? Sending prayers and loving thoughts to you. ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

I was diagnosed in July 24. Lumpectomy in August. IBC stage 2b Grade 3, 1 node involved. My PET scan was clear. I had 4 rounds of chemo and am currently completing 36 rounds of radiation. I too thought this would be less than it is. I am almost at the end of treatment and am cautiously optimistic. I pray that your journey goes so smoothly and that your support group is strong💕

Irene so good you are coming to the end of the treatment…I’m just beginning, I should have the oncotype test results on Tuesday…to see what is best to do.

What a shock this must be when the reality is so different from what you were preparing for. Many in this community have experienced that overwhelming feeling when staging results reveal a more complex situation than initially expected. The waiting period between scans and results can feel endless, but remember that having a complete picture through the PET scan will help your medical team create the most effective treatment plan for your specific situation. This community understands the fear and uncertainty you're facing right now, and you'll find others here who have walked similar paths and can offer support during this difficult time.