Cancer's Impact on Patients and Families

What's NOT fair is cancer, which now. It's like a cold. Everyone is getting hit, regardless of age, ethnicity, or race. I am not the patient, but rather the wife. Ever since my husband found out and lost his brother due to cancer, too. At almost the same time. I have been in the dark by his choice. Patient rights to confidentiality. I am not included in anything. That's the least that I know. Most hurtful, I am his punching bag. He's changed... he used to always be angry. It's gotten a bit better since being done with chemotherapy treatments (taken 3). At least right now, but bottom line. I had to move out because of all the threats, some physical, but most importantly the almost every day insults, belittling, and curses 3 - 4 nights out of a week, hardly getting any sleep at all. It's been something I always had in the back burner. After 32 years, it's not an easy one to take... so if it is not settling and going well for some time. Don't wait 32 years to make a move. I know God won't give us more than we can bear, but time makes it hard. It also makes it easier for the ups and downs to take that will come along the way. It's still hard! I can only imagine the pain and agony chemotherapy puts you through. No difference than child birth, going through the labor. Pain is indescribable, and we all take it different. Cancer is not just taking lives but families, too. Cancer patients are NOT the only ones suffering... it's the family, too. The wife or spouse (millennium era). I feel pain because I see him going through pain, the tears, the cries, the screams, the loss of strength. The changes chemotherapy does and makes to your being physically and spiritually. What makes it more difficult and most critical is the money that it costs, whether you're okay in finances or not. Medicare is NOT willing to pay for any chemotherapy treatments. Only willing to be responsible for the scans and blood works (almost like dialysis). Chemotherapy treatments are out of pocket... costing $1200 - $1800. How can this be? A disabled or any individual should NOT have to go through this stress and uncertainty. Work to pay for pills that will destroy your body and mind. This doesn't make sense. Break your spirit, health, finances, and home. I just want to let others know.. what's cancer done in my family. We need to continue to speak up and throw it to the public, news, others, and White House. Stop adding all these chemicals to our food, stop using a microwave, or at least be as limited as much as able, stop drinking these sodas, wanna be juices, cereals, meats, cookies, chips that are loaded with either chemicals, bioengineered foods (fake fours) gluten (fake sugar), plastics, steroid/ antibiotics/ hormonal chickens and meats (fake meat) and be attentive to all the abuse the US FDA allows to be continously done to these animals (chickens, pigs, cows) before being slaughtered. The pesticides used behind our backs for crops, at home, at work. 1+1+1+1+1+1+1+1+1..... How much does it add up? Let's continue to make a move! Cancer is our enemy (the devil), but together with God. We can make a difference. Because when U & I bleed. We bleed the same. God bless