How has cancer changed your perspective and patience with others?

Hi my name is Mary and I feel the same way u do. I definitely don’t have patience for stupidity and obnoxious people Particularly ones that find in a grocery store or just shopping . Unfortunately this horrible journey does change u. People who have never gone through or still are don’t understand how u feel and why. My husband’s first wife died of cancer so he’s going through a second time, but he understands if I don’t feel up to going out or when I just don’t want to move. If u ever want to talk or vent I’m here. Just try to feel well and be safe! Mary❤️

Thank u Mary

Many people in the cancer community share similar feelings about how their priorities and tolerance levels have shifted after diagnosis. It's common to find yourself valuing meaningful moments more deeply while having less patience for things that feel trivial or draining. Others here may relate to that challenge of feeling like people around you don't fully grasp how much your daily experience has changed, and how that can affect relationships and interactions.

I have Hormone positive HER2 negative Stage 4 BC with metastasized T7 & 8 with surgery 2/08/2025. I am 75 yo and decided in February I was tired of tiptoeing around feelings, especially my husband’s. We have been married almost 39 years. He was in shock but for 2 weeks he didn’t support me. He was planning in his head to move to NC close to his daughter after burying me. I’m alive - not dead. I express my feelings (out loud) now more often. I have lots of friends and try to make more time to see and talk with them. He would like to be a hermit but I refuse to isolate myself. He thinks I should not have changed in the 39 years we have been together. Thanks for the opportunity to vent!

Hi Shebbie I completely get you I am about happiness and making the best life for myself I tend to be a people pleaser but I have changed after this journey my life has changed and the new me just wants to make the best life in between the treatments tests and dr appointments,, hang in there and do what makes you happy it’s our journey and not theirs

Thank you🙂 Until you walk this path it is difficult to understand the ups and downs and sideways! Thank God I have friends that care. Be happy and live every day to the fullest. Some days are better than others, but that too shall pass. Only God knows how and when. Take care of yourself 💕

Shabbier we have no expiration stamps on our foreheads. I also am dealing with a stage 4 breast cancer diagnosis. People die suddenly from heart attacks and accidents so there is no guarantee who will die first in any family unfortunately. my husband is supportive thank God. Don’t allow anyone even your spouse to derail your positive outlook. strong faith. A healthy diet. Good meds. and positivity will keep you going strong. We are warriors and need to advocate for ourselves. It took me a long time to stop putting myself last.

Sorry Shebbie. For spelling your name. Wrong

We are all warriors !!! We got this ! I agree with you all we need to have a voice and spread positivity and hope to all !

So true May God bless us all

He is blessing us every day! We are here for a reason.😊

So true! God bless everyone in our special community love you all

I feel like you do.

That sounds about right with how it has effected me. Plus I am super emotional now. I can choke up talking about what cereal to buy. I have explained this to my grown kids. But I still think it is hard on them when we are talking about almost anything and I get choked up.

No one can really understand our emotions. We don’t understand! We don’t know the next step (but really no one does). Last February I felt really good, was eating clean, had lost 20 pounds, was still working (Realtor) and had just gotten a contract on my new listing and was 6 weeks from my 75th birthday! WHAM. My world completely changed and I can’t get it back. But God has a different plan and now I walk one day at the time. Yep, I cry at the silliest things but I keep walking. Just keep walking, Jane.