How do I cope with prostate cancer after losing my wife?

Hello Michael, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how it must have felt getting the news so soon after your wife's passing. Try not to lose hope though, it will carry you through. You are not forgotten, and even a short time can make a huge difference. Keep reaching out, we're here to encourage you. Christine. 🙏

Michael, I am so sorry to hear of your loss and diagnosis. . We are all tested in ways that we could never imagined. Coming out of the darkest days of our lives gives us strength that we never knew we had. Having faith will give you the courage and strength to overcome. Connect with someone who will help support you through this difficult time. A friend, relative, minister 🙏.. you can always reach out to us here! Richard

Michael…. Keep hope alive. Those pups need you. 🐾❤️

Michael. Have faith. We are all battling this demon. Together we are strong! There is no expiration date on our foreheads. We just might surprise them!

You are nice people! I’m trying to adjust to my new life without my wife and my diagnosis. We had no close friends we worked and when done we relaxed together, restaurants, Farmers Markets, festivals and road trips. We worked around people so on our time off we preferred just us. I’m retired due to my aggressive cancer I get sick a lot but I’m dealing. I have 2 boys 1 is in the military 23 years and travels to S. Korea and Alaska only at his home in LA 5 days out of 60 and my other son works for a military contractor and works / travels a lot. My oncology Dr’s say I should be able to do this okay while living alone. I appreciate your words of encouragement.

The dogs are spoiled brats but I love them and they make me smile 😀

I’m getting ready I’m 65 and they have me on 1,000 mg of Abiraterone & prednisone 5 mg daily to shrink the cancer that has spread to my lymph nodes and my rectum. We are hoping that the meds will solve the rectum issues and then be able to do a ballon between my rectum and prostate. Then they want to put gold peads / spotters on my prostate for focused radiation for 3 days and then 25 days for my torso and pelvic area. I have retired the chemo medication messes me up a bit. I’m learning from you guys. I have 2 old dogs and live alone . It’s entertaining. My oncologist’s say I can do it alone. My wife died a few months prior to my diagnosis I’m busy. I just came across this site and it is informative. God bless you all!

Good Morning! all you beautiful strong warriors! Today is a brand new day, every inch, every step forward is moving you towards your recovery! ❤️‍🩹 Stay positive, Stay strong, Keep moving forward with confidence and courage! Bless you all 🙏 believe in yourself! 💪 “Don’t Let The Bad Days Win!”

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Keep in touch with us Michael. We are rooting for you! Our prayers are with you keep us in your prayers

Keep writing us, Michael. We’re walking with you. Your life matters.

Peace be with you Michael. Keep going for those little doggies. You can beat your illness for longer than you think. Keep a warrior attitude. God bless.

Hi Michael I was the same age when I was diagnosed it has been 14 years ago lots treatments pills injection etc I try keep active 'with friends support groups travel and fishing god bless try stay positive yes there are bad days but the good outway them,sorry about your loved one the pets keeps us grounded take care god speed dion

Hi Michael, my name is Edward Crafts. I too have prostate cancer that has spread to lymph nodes and my right hip pelvic area. I also lost my wife, of 60 years, 6 months ago from dementia. I am 86 years old, and developed my cancer after my wife's illness became too much for me to care for at home. I have a son and 2 daughters, but no dogs. I live alone. I went through 2 months of pelvic radiation, as an option, and 6 months of increasing illness with bowel, nausea lack of taste and appetite, and inability to tolerate Apalutamide " horse pills". The worst part was the loss of my wife. I am gradually getting used to the idea that she is gone, but I broke down and cried for days on end. I still cry at times, but I have a very close relationship with my son, even though he lives the farthest away. I am fortunate that outside of my almost constant feeling of exhaustion and the inability to perform any strenuous exercise or physical work, I don't have any real symptoms of cancer. After all I am 86. I also am taking 240 mg of Apalutamide every day, and receive a female hormone injection in my abdomen every 6 months. So far my PSA has gone from 75, to under 2. My source of Apalutamide is India, due to the exorbitant price in the US. I am suggesting this as an alternative to you after your radiation. I have an aquaintance, 75, who is on his second go round with prostate cancer, it has even spread to his bones, so when you say you are f_______d, sorry, I find that hard to believe. If my oncologist inferred that, I would find another doctor. Unless your Prostate Cancer is an aggressive rapidly spreading type that is rare, you should be able to live many more years. Get yourself a puppy or 2 for the sake of your old dogs and yourself. My daughter is always trying to fend 2 of her adoption kittens on me, but I am not a cat person. Best regards and prayers, Ed Crafts.

I meant cannot tolerate Abiraterone. Sorry for the mixup.

You’ve been through so much, Michael. I am praying that things get better for you. You are still here, and you deserve some happiness.

I want to thank you all for sharing your experience and support. I don’t see or hear from anyone and you guys are educating and encouraging and I want you to know that you are appreciated. Big hugs to you all. Thank you!

I The Petscan is to verify my cancer is bal so it’s imperative to have it but I’m anxious which makes everything worse…

Edward Craft. I appreciate your thoughts. We both lost our wife’s. You were mad about my doctor saying we’re f——- but I appreciate honesty from my doctor and he is spot on and I have appreciated his wisdom, and honesty . I’m stage IV B. I want to go on vacation with my 2 boys before things get stupid but I have to wait. I asked my Dr. and he said wait until we meet. I’m so thinning out my house for less for my boys to take care of. I’m really kinda young but I need to prepare. I’m by myself and this sucks. I have my 2 old dogs and that’s a blessing. I’m sad!

I love everything and everyone 💕

Michael, I wasn't mad about what your Doctor said, but my own experience has taught me that most doctors today, are very narrow minded due to the extreme specialisation in our medical system. My own best friends, are doctors. One is my personal physician. You never mentioned the specifics of your prostate cancer. Whether it is a fast spreading variety that has already been mastasacized into your bones, or other organs? I am sorry, but you sound like you are just waiting to die. Visit with your sons., and anyone else now, don't wait for your doctor to tell you what to do. Trust your own intuition, and remember, there is no cure for life, except death. Which of the two are you experiencing right now? Which of the two would you choose, if the choice was yours. Love, and all the best to you, Ed Crafts.

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