Considering Stopping Cancer Treatment While Caring for Spouse

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CD

Community Member

6 months ago

I can feel all you pain. I had a doctor appointment yesterday with family doctor and told her I am thinking of stopping treatment. I have liver and bone cancer and it’s terminal. The goal is to keep me stabilize. My husband has Parkinson’s and Lewy Body Dementia. He takes a lot of my energy and frustration. I am not willing to put in nursing home. In the beginning kids and friends would come to see us. Now it has gradually decreased. I am putting much home bound. Either taking care of him or no friends to meet up with when are caregiver comes. Thank God for her, I would be totally insane without. I see no way out of this and no reason to continue. I don’t feel as much support from my oncology team. I decided that I will decide in September if I am going to stop. I see my main oncologist then.

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This sounds like an incredibly challenging situation, carrying the weight of caregiving while managing your own health journey. The isolation and exhaustion you're experiencing are real struggles that many in similar situations face, and it makes sense that you're feeling overwhelmed by these difficult decisions. Consider discussing your concerns about support with your oncology team - they may be able to connect you with additional resources like social workers, support groups, or respite care services that could help lighten the load while you navigate these important treatment decisions.

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GS

Community Member

6 months ago

Chris, very sad to hear about your situation. Very difficult indeed. I know the easy thing to say is to fight, which I recommend, but certainly understand your dispare and frustration. Trust in God's grace and blessings - but ultimately take the position which best meets your current needs. Whatever time you have on this earth, spend it on your terms. Godspeed!

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MR

Community Member

6 months ago

I have been doing Cancer treatment for three years, I have Liver cancer a rare type plus a Rare family disorder passed down though my FAMILY I know it's hard but don't give up,GOD is in charge of are Lives he will be there for you.He has been with me from the beginning I was just 35year old,I am now going on 77 in August so give him a chance. I will keep you in my prayers. Margaret R.

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GP

Community Member

5 months ago

I too think this is your journey and you should be in charge. We all have a limited amount of time on the earth and we should be able to meet our end with dignity. I wish you dignity, peace and tranquility on your final journey.

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LD

Community Member

5 months ago

God bless you, Chris. I have been diagnosed with stage 3a adenocarcinoma and also a full time care taker of my aunt. This battle is not easy on our mental health, but you know what is best for you and your family. Just breathe is what I tell myself when I get overwhelmed with it all.

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CA

Community Member

2 months ago

This sounds like an incredibly challenging situation, carrying the weight of caregiving while managing your own health journey. The isolation and exhaustion you're experiencing are real struggles that many in similar situations face, and it makes sense that you're feeling overwhelmed by these difficult decisions. Consider discussing your concerns about support with your oncology team - they may be able to connect you with additional resources like social workers, support groups, or respite care services that could help lighten the load while you navigate these important treatment decisions.

Considering Stopping Cancer Treatment While Caring for Spouse

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