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How do you cope when breast cancer spreads and you feel alone?

AB

Community Member

3 days ago

Just diagnosed with breast cancer in November. It is also in my lymph nodes and just this past week found out it has moved to my liver. More testing to do before starting treatment. I am overwhelmed, angry, not sleeping and mad at my spouse for, in my opinion, his lack of caring or concern. He is with me at my appointments but once we’re home, he’s basically checked out. I don’t want to see anyone or talk to anyone. I’m just lost.

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JG

Community Member

3 days ago

I'm sorry for all you are going through- my spouse of 28 years acts the same and I feel completely overwhelmed and lost too. Talking and venting it out does help a little. That's all I got. Umm this is a struggle and I'm just trying to keep my shit together as long as possible. I wish you all the very best. Focus on you as best you can and keep hanging on

RD

Community Member

3 days ago

Good afternoon, Amanda. I was diagnosed with CRC this past October, had a localized mass removed along with several lymph nodes, and am currently in chemotherapy. I'm kinda in a similar situation. My son, who is my primary care person, is very attentive concerning my treatment and knows what's going on but leaves ma alone for the most part. This recovery is a personal journey and I'm guessing your husband is doing the same. I know he's here when needed and am trying to work through this. You could probably say the same. Stay strong. This sucks... I know.

CA

Community Member

2 days ago

Feeling overwhelmed and isolated during cancer treatment is incredibly common, and those emotions are completely valid given everything happening right now. Many couples struggle to communicate about cancer because partners often process fear and stress differently - sometimes what looks like checking out is actually someone feeling helpless and not knowing how to help. Since loneliness is weighing heavily on you right now, please scroll down the page from the Home Screen of the app to find the Ask Outcomes4Me box to get in touch for a more personal conversation and connect with our clinical care experts. If you're having thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to the crisis hotline at 988.

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