Relationships

How to get help with housework during chemo when feeling overwhelmed?

I am in middle of my 4th chemo cycle, with 2 more to go. It's good to be able to have an end in sight, but I am so overwhelmed. Not only physically, but mentally as well. I have been disabled for 13 years (multiple spinal issues and bipolar disorder), and was never great at keeping house. But now I am barely able to do anything, especially the 1st week after chemo. I do what I can, but my husband still expects me to do almost everything. I get so frustrated, but he works hard to support us and is exhausted when he gets home, so I don't complain. Anyone else going through this, or have any ideas about how I can get help?

Where can cancer patients find housing help when they can't work?

Are there any places that help you move? My husband is the bread winner, I have cervical cancer that has spread to my uterus and fallopian tubes. I was scheduled for a total hysterectomy and the day of the surgery it was cancelled because my urine test said I was pregnant but it was a false positive. They won't operate now do to blood disorder. They are not able to locate if it's in my cervix or ovaries because they couldn't do the surgery. I went in for my mammogram and they told me I have to go to diagnostic. Now I'm being sent to a different doctors once again and feel like I'm going in circles. My husband is no help and gets angry with me if I bring it up. He doesn't help clean or cook and I am getting sicker each day. I want to leave but have no support and can't work. But I haven't gotten disability yet. Is there anywhere that I can go? I think it's best that I move out and be around positive people who understand but don't know if a place like that exists.

How to date after prostate surgery with sexual side effects?

I’m soon to be 69. Had radical prostatectomy 3 + years ago. I’m divorced for 12 years. I went through this mostly alone. A significant concern of mine is the side effects of the surgery and I’m reluctant to socialize with women ( date ) due to the stigma of the sexual side effects and still minor incontinence ( which has improved). I was in a relationship with a wonderful woman who fully supported me and understood ( about the sexual side effects). After 9 months, I broke off the relationship because I felt I wasn’t worthy of her or enough for her. I feel inadequate and have not even considered a relationship with a woman. Thoughts ????

How do I handle relationship stress when cancer forces me to stop working?

It's hard dealing with relationships when you have to stop working and the only income is from your husband

How do I cope when my partner became angry and demanding after cancer diagnosis?

I lost my fiance and gained a patient. I want to cherish every moment we have together n I thought he'd feel the same, but instead he throws pills at me and demands what he needs. I've had to set some boundaries.

What fun activities help you stay positive during treatment?

Hi my name is Lily spelled with two L's I what I like to do for fun is dance, sing, play baseball, hang out with my friends, Roblox, Minecraft, swimming. What do you like to do for fun

How do you cope with grief and cancer diagnosis at the same time?

This site is tough listening to people going through very rough times. I was told 15 days ago to do any event / vacation you want to do this year and definitely don’t wait until the 2nd year it’s to be for pain control and death. I am like when does my year start? I lost my wife 3 months before I was diagnosed. It has been 10 months since she passed she was only 59 and we were together 19 years. I really don’t care about my cancer because I cry daily missing her and holding her, sleeping next to her spending time together. I really don’t know if I’m going to die from a broken heart or the cancer. My only thought is that I will be with her soon and forever in my heart. I just really don’t understand why this has happened it hurts so bad. God? I wish she is home and I passed.

How do I reassure my family about my cancer without them worrying?

Trying to convince family members everything is going to be ok, without them worrying too much

How do I cope with nervousness before starting cancer treatment?

My husband will be with me, while I go to treatment, I'm nervous about it

How can I stay positive when cancer is straining my relationship?

Trying to stay positive with a strained relationship