Relationships

Why didn't I know I had ovarian cancer for years?

I had Ovarian Cancer did not know. I had a ovarian cancer for years. Stopped being intimate for 6 years decided to get with a friend. Just from my birthday 2025 and found out because I wouldn't stop bleeding. So I end up going to the doctors. He had me go further to find out, you know, maybe it was my menopause that just wouldn't do. I don't know but anyway, so I went to go and see how far my menopause was progessing. I want to get my uterus ultrasound and found out that I had several tumors in my uterus, and in my ovaries had them due to a hysterectomy, because I didn't want them poking and prying on me and october seventh when they removed my hysterectomy stitches is when she told me that I had ovarian cancer. It was definitely a hard pill to swallow.But I did not know how to swallow that pill because it was removed before I even knew I had it so to all women out here, please make sure your daughter's your cousin. Your sisters, your friends, your nemesis, your people that you just don't like and get their uterus. Ultrasound, to ensure everything is properly taken care of.

Has anyone dealt with hemorrhoids and anal fissures after chemo?

My son is 28. He has been my caretaker for the past 3 years. Started with lumpectomy radiation . and then 18 months of monoclonal antibodies. 4 treatments of chemo. . had 2 mastectomies. I had severe diahrhea entire 18 months Then constipation 4 months of chemo. After last Feb 2025 I developed several internal and external hemmeroids along with anal fisure. Tried creams preperation H. surgeon gave me Botox injection. Nothing helps them go away. Has anyone had this problem? It's debilitating. I do have 2 spinal discs that are herniated. I need 2 fusions. would this be contributing?

How can I support my partner who's caring for me during cancer?

How do you support your partners? I mean the partners who care for you, who are trying to hold down the fort- cooking, driving, taking care of kids and everything that's usually a shared responsibility? My partner's worst fear, cancer, didn't hit them, it hit me. I'm starting treatments next week, after a few hectic weeks of appointments, tests, biopsies, diagnosis, etc, so I have no idea how I will feel, physically and emotionally. I feel oddly detached/unemotional thru all of it right now ("it is what it is"), but I want to make sure he doesn't despair. We stopped sweating the small stuff, there's almost no usual arguing/disagreements - it all seems so insignificant now, there's a lot more closeness and quiet peaceful moments. And while he didn't fall apart and he's here for me in every sense, including emotional support, I want to make sure *he* doesn't burn out. Those who came out on the other side, still together and as a team, what helped?

How do you cope when breast cancer spreads and you feel alone?

Just diagnosed with breast cancer in November. It is also in my lymph nodes and just this past week found out it has moved to my liver. More testing to do before starting treatment. I am overwhelmed, angry, not sleeping and mad at my spouse for, in my opinion, his lack of caring or concern. He is with me at my appointments but once we’re home, he’s basically checked out. I don’t want to see anyone or talk to anyone. I’m just lost.

How do you find hope and patience during cancer treatment?

Good Sunday morning everyone. I hope all is well. May the peace of Jesus Christ fill yor hearts.( James 5:8 (NIV) > “You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near.” A brief reflection: This verse calls us to steady faith—patience that waits without giving up, and a heart made firm by hope. Even in trials, we are reminded to live with watchful expectation, knowing the Lord is near and faithful to fulfill His promises.) Yall stay warm and be safe.

Should I give my ex-husband another chance after he left during chemo?

Been battling Hodgkin’s lymphoma for about 3 years now. In the beginning my husband and I would always argue which led to him leaving me after I found out he would be texting other women while I was hooked up receiving chemo too. My hair fell out because of chemo and I knew it wasn’t sexy. Months go by and my hair regrew and my husband has been trying to get back with me. Then I relapsed and had to get stem cell surgery and my hair fell out again. But he’s trying to be there for me this time around. Problem is It’s hard because I don’t trust him anymore and I know he doesn’t care about my cancer. We have a son so we coparent really good but he wants another chance. Am I wrong for not wanting him back?

Why do I still feel like my life sucks despite knowing it could be worse?

I know it can always be worse. I still think my life sucks 80% of the time.

What free resources help women fighting cancer prepare for treatment?

For any woman fighting cancer - I put together something free that might help. I’m Kelly, a breast cancer survivor, and during my own journey I remember feeling completely overwhelmed — not knowing what I needed for chemo, surgery, cold capping, drains, radiation, or even how to ask for help. That experience led me to build something I wish I had. I’m launching a completely free resource on December 13th called Re-Femme. It’s for any woman going through any type of cancer. It includes: • A curated cancer-care registry with items needed for each stage of treatment • cold capping and wig fund options you can add to your registry to send to friends and family who want to contribute. • Practical guides on cold capping, drain care, insurance codes, and coping with side effects • Emotional support tools and survivor-led tips • A way for loved ones to know exactly how to support someone going through treatment. You can add items or gift cards to your Re-Femme registry and easily share it with friends and family who want to support you! If you are a woman fighting cancer or know a woman who is, here’s the link to join and be notified the minute we go live! www.joinrefemme.com My only goal is to make the journey less overwhelming for other women. Sending love to everyone fighting, supporting, or healing. 💗

Is a mastectomy necessary for stage 0 breast cancer treatment?

I was diagnosed with stage 0 breast cancer. In April/2025. The right breast had surgery in July/2025. The ultra sound of the right breast was negative for breast cancer & Mammogram. Even did a PET-CT scan on the hip to head. They wanted to put in a port,chemo, radiation during my late forties. However, just the other day got a second opinion and wanted me say the tests aren't accurate and cut off my right breast and then after that get chemo and radiation. Well, a bit extreme considered he got dates wrong amd say at the end Her2+ is a gift. Still didn't reconstruct my right to transfer fat from my stomach about 5 months later.

How do I handle abusive relationships during cancer treatment?

Im a 51 yo female with 3 different types of breast cancer. I started treatment 3 months ago and I have 1 1/2 months of chemo before surgery in January then back to chemo another year. I was living in Florida with few friends and zero family so I decided to get treatment in st louis where im from. My ex husband offered me a place to stay in st louis while I undergo chemo. He immediately became abusive. Long story short I fled for my life and am so glad I did. He was slowly killing me.