Coping with Stage 4 Breast Cancer and Limited Support

Ingrid, that is really a difficult situation. I'm so sorry you are having to go through all of this. BC can be lonely at times, even with family around. I know it is really hard but maybe a local church can help. I just switched to a smaller church and the people there are wonderful. Going to their weekly small groups helps me feel connected. Also there might be more online support groups for breast cancer that would be beneficial. Also just getting out and going for walks ( if your physically up for it) helps (me) psychology. I will be thinking of you and will say a prayer for you also.

Hi Ingrid, You are not alone. Ask God to send you help and give you peace then trust that he will deliver and he will. God puts people in our path to care for and help us. Also I dont know if this applies to you but don't be quiet about your illness and needs. Some people are so quiet that their own people don't realize they wanted or needed help or think that it's too private a matter so they don't say or do anything for fear of invading privacy. I think because I was so vocal to my family, friends, and neighbors that I have a huge supportive network. Some cook, some pray, some offered to take me for appointments. No one can do it all for me nor did I want that. It was good for my soul and emotional balance too. Good people, current strangers even, are around who would help if we let them. Start now with the prayer. It's all connected and when you are able, be God hands and feet in turn. Good luck and God bless you!

I have told every family member and friends that I am in need and no one has offered any help...because of my sickness and realizing what kind of people are around me..I am beginning to remove people out of my life...

I know. It is hard. I'm glad this forum is here. Removing negative people from your circle is a good move. Put your health first. Also, the social workers at the hospital usually are excellent at helping patients find resources. That's it from me. I won't monopolize your thread. I just sent up a prayer for you.

I have two girls. One has three children and a full full time position as a med tech in a alziemers unit at a home for alziemer and dimentia patients. I need treatments every 3rd wk. She's able to be there for my first treatment but I'm not sure who's going to be able to help me after. I'm nervous enough without that. My youngest has a lot of anger over my being sick again. I had a deadly infection in my spine that took several years of my life to recover when she was 11yrs old. It's like a flash back for her. She has 4 children and one of them is on the spectrum. This is horrible timing for any of us I'm sure. I am praying to God everyday. I'm going to reach out to the church to see if anyone can help. Pray darling pray. If anything it gives me peace.

Hi Ingrid Understanding you my son first took me to see my surgeon to explain the cancer and procedure. He also was there after my partial mastectomy course Since then I attend all my appointments alone and happy that the pp there are compassionate. Of course you want families with you my Physical Therapist is so sweet and asked me how am I doing which makes me feel some one cares. Had to have PT due to the lymph node biopsy they did at my surgery, cause much stiffness on my arms. Thanking God lymph is negative my church pp call me and ask how am Doing it helps my grandson when he’s not working is within me he lives with me. I am completely in Gods hand love and seek his love and word Hoping you can find someone to be with you sometime it’s not always family My friend he away I know he will be with me in my joinery Hope yours is too ❤️

God will send you an helper yes he will

Navigating cancer treatment while managing work and family responsibilities requires tremendous strength, and finding additional emotional support during this challenging time can make a meaningful difference. Many people in similar situations have found comfort through cancer support groups, online communities, counseling services, or connecting with others who understand this journey, which might help complement the loving support already being provided at home.