How do you cope when brain cancer changes your spouse's personality?

Caring for someone with brain cancer while watching their personality and cognitive abilities change is one of the most challenging experiences anyone can face. The guilt feelings are incredibly common among caregivers - these changes aren't anyone's fault, and acknowledging how difficult this is doesn't make you any less devoted. Many caregivers find support through counseling, respite care, and connecting with others who understand this unique journey.

I'm in a similar situation. My hubby is sometimes like a toddler. Other times, he's completely coherent, but he believes we're in another state and I've moved all of his stuff there. All I can say is to meet him where he is, whatever that may be. And I'm sure you hear this a lot, but make time for yourself. For me, I take the scenic route to and from work just to have that time of peace. It takes a little longer, but I feel so much better afterwards. Also, it's good to talk with people who get it. Feel free to reach out if you need and ear (eye?).

My husband also has brain cancer. I have been able to cope with his cognition and memory loss. However, it is harder for me to deal with his change in personality. We've been married 43 years and has always been so loving and kind to me. Lately he's been harsh and hateful. He's never cussed the whole time we have been together, but all of a sudden he is cussing whenever things aren't going the way he thinks they should. He was given 3 to 6 months to live and he's in the 4th month. We have some good quality time when he is lucid. I don't think he remembers but they will be with me when/if he is gone.