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This sounds incredibly difficult and isolating to navigate, especially while dealing with a cancer diagnosis. Relationship patterns can be complex, and often they reflect more about the other person's character and capacity for genuine connection than anything about your worth or what you've done wrong. Consider reaching out by scrolling down the page from the Home Screen of the app to find the Ask Outcomes4Me box to get in touch for a more personal conversation with our clinical care experts, and remember that the 988 hotline is available if you need additional support during these tough moments.

Dear Aymer, We are never alone despite our early struggles for Our Lord and Savior is always with us.. Reach out to Him and pray continuously for the right person to come into your life. We may not always understand the reasons why we face delays but I assure you putting your faith and prayers first will find you everlasting peace and happiness. Thomas O 🙏

Thomas.. there are those of us who are not Christians... Such as myself for personal reasons... Just saying

Aymee that is not true. You are not "ment" to be alone in the journey we call life. Remember in the Bible it said, "and God saw that Adam was alone, and he said, "it is not good for man to be alone, I will make him a helper..." So hold onto that. If u want to talk, reach out to me. Eddie. H.

I'm not a Christian 🤦🏻‍♀️ I don't believe in the Bible or God... For personal reasons.. ugh

I got stage four,quit feeling sorry for yourself and looking for sympathy and fight, no matter what you believe in. Good luck lady.

I was venting ... We're all going thru this differently. Don't be a sour puss Archie

Christian or not Aymee and whether you believe in the Bible or God doesn’t make a difference you’re still one of his children like it or not.. He put us all here for a reason. Try making the best of it before it’s too late… Thomas O

wish I could see someone in my heart forever 💖

My faith is what is getting me through this cancer journey. And the prayers of friends family and people in my church family are helping me. Since you don't believe in prayer have you tried meditation?

Hi Aymee W. I have stage four metastatic cancer diagnosed June 2025 three months after my wife suddenly passed after 19 years. I went through everything chemo, radiation ect alone no family or anyone except the hospital staff when I was with them. I really didn’t care about the cancer or my outcome I just want to curl up and die. I miss my wife, life with her was great. They have my cancer in check but I’m so broken and sad, daily I ask god to take me. I tried to meet women but I get the same response as Aymee so I stopped. I can’t kill myself but the only thing I ask of god is to take me. All I can say is Aymee I hear you! I wish you all the best! ( I hate religion bullies. )

Dear Aymee W, Michael M, and perhaps others on this thread — In the three miserable years and counting since diagnosis of my high-risk prostate cancer, I’ve experienced the depression and utter hopelessness such as you express: “care” teams that don’t care, so-called “side” effects that reduce your quality of life to zero, advice from well-meaning others who make you feel worse, and guidance from those who say if only you believe in the supernatural powers that I believe in, every worry and concern will magically be lifted from your troubled mind. None of those are your strength, because you, and only you, are your strength. Be your own cure! Do your own research. Did you know that almost all professional medical journals are available in full online? Have you read the entirety of every posting and comment on Outcomes4Me? Do you regularly read Healthline and reports on relevant clinical trials? The practices of oncologists, radiologists, and medical specialties are notoriously reluctant to accept current research findings and incorporate them into their patient recommendations. But you need not accept their delays if you keep current on fast-moving findings that can significantly improve your situation—IF you insist on it. Bottom line: Take control. Don’t necessarily accept conventional medicine and “the way we’ve always done it.” And take reasonable risks, which is something that the medical-industrial complex avoids like the plague. You have the power if you take the power. You’ve got nothing to lose but your helplessness and hopelessness.

Why is it that people only turn to the supernatural (GOD) when ALL else has failed..? HE walks with us through every journey and is always there beside us just waiting for us to ask for His Devine intervention..! Weather it be this disease a relationship or something else most people only turn to Him as a last resort and it’s not till they’re on their deathbed do they call on Him.. Aymee I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again You have nothing to lose and EVERYTHING to gain by giving it to GOD.. Doctors only PRACTICE medicine , Pharmaceuticals are only in it for the money and journals only print what brings in more profit period .. Read all you want but in the end I can almost guarantee you’ll be turning to Our Lord and Savior for His Healing .. God Bless Thomas O

As usual, Thomas O makes important observations. Directly above, he writes, “Doctors only PRACTICE medicine.” Totally true. And don’t all of us only practice, always seeking to do better the next time, always trying to correct missteps and mistakes? That's the approach I took to my prostate cancer diagnosis and treatment. I've jumped from one practice, possibility, or belief to another as I sought relief from the depression, confusion, and contradictions of various procedures and treatments. Having been a journalist for 60 years, I found answers, and comfort, in words: medical journals and the oncological press. Thomas O apparently takes a different path: "putting your faith and prayers first will find you everlasting peace and happiness." Aymee W—for her own equally valid and heartfelt reasons—feels otherwise. All of us find different answers as we practice. All are equally honorable and effective as what works for us.

Well done Dave S. I wish we could give Aymee a hug.

Michael M — I feel the same as you about Aymee. And the same as you about you. Virtual hug for all.

Sadly, being Stage IV doesn't free you from wanting a hand to hold. My husband passed away in 2019 and, like you, I have had to take every step alone. Please don't give up on yourself--or potential partners! I hope you find your partner. Blessed be.