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How can I cope with a breakup after my cancer diagnosis?

GD

Community Member

6 months ago

I had a woman who i fell completely in love with. We had picked an engagement ring out and planned a wedding. She left me shortly after my diagnosis of stage 4 colon cancer. I still see her once in a while at church, but she won't talk to me. She has OCD and is deathly afraid of chemo. I want her back in my life. How?

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Dealing with a relationship ending during such a challenging health journey can feel overwhelming, and it's completely understandable to be hurting right now. While it's natural to want to reconnect, focusing on building a strong support network around you - whether through this community, other friends, family, or counseling - can be incredibly valuable as you navigate both your treatment and emotional healing.

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BH

Community Member

6 months ago

Her true colors have shown. A godly woman is a woman who can walk with you and God through any hardship.

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MM

Community Member

6 months ago

Gary my heart goes out to you! Maybe you dodged a bullet for a real life partner.

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MA

Community Member

5 months ago

You are a church man. Keep your eyes on the Cross where Jesus died. He will send the right person.

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CA

Community Member

4 months ago

Dealing with a relationship ending during such a challenging health journey can feel overwhelming, and it's completely understandable to be hurting right now. While it's natural to want to reconnect, focusing on building a strong support network around you - whether through this community, other friends, family, or counseling - can be incredibly valuable as you navigate both your treatment and emotional healing.

EM

Community Member

3 months ago

I think she has told you clearly how she feels so please let it go. You want someone who wants, needs and desires you. You are dealing with Cancer but it doesn’t define you. There is someone out there for you. You deserve better. 🤗🦋

GD

Community Member

3 months ago

We are talking again. However, they're giving up on me at the VA. Im going for a second opinion tomorrow at the Cleveland clinic. 🤞🙏

NA

Community Member

a month ago

You can do better, for certain. I think you should take a hint and move on rather than chase something that isn't worth it. My gentleman friend of 10 years broke it off right after my surgery. Said he couldn't take the "cancer drama" and no longer loved me. 💔

MM

Community Member

a month ago

Ouch Nancy! That sucks! 10 years of fake love. My situation is way different. My wife of 18 years passed last March then 3 months later I was diagnosed with stage four metastatic prostate cancer I miss her so much and they say I have around 5 years they are not able to cure me. My 6th and final chemotherapy is this Saturday. I have been going through this by myself. I hope you have a supportive group around you because it really sucks when you don’t. My heart goes out to you all.

MM

Community Member

a month ago

I am liking the thought of counseling for myself. Everything has happened so fast. I’m not really caring about myself I am mostly focused on the loss of my wife and I kinda feel lost and broken. I need to figure it out.

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