Struggling with Cancer and Family Conflict

She called me a textbook social path and I truly was a mom of the year she went so far as to take herself off my hospital records as next of kin knowing that I have no family here.

I am so unhappy and I feel like a terrible person

Sometimes even though we don't try to lean on other people for support, there are times that an encouraging word or act can help. We are going through a MAJOR life change and those around us need to understand that. Those that love us want the best for us. Blood family or not, if they are not willing to walk along side you and support you on this journey, you don't need them in your life right now. It's a shame using children as pawns, but sometimes we just have to let our kids live their lives. If you as are spiritual, you just have to leave all those problems at the door. Maybe there are counselors through your oncology group or in the community?

Yes! What Odine said. Ask your oncologist about social workers and or therapists that might be available to you through your cancer center. This is a hard time and you deserve support.

You will not like what I have to say although it’s a little hard for me to understand everything you wrote. If you have to explain to your daughter what you are going through , and yet she is so insensitive as to think of herself only, I would not feel guilty saying NO to her . Perhaps both of you would benefit from talking to a therapist . The fact that she’s denying you the pleasure of your grandson is disturbing , it is a mean weapon and very demoralizing . YOU COME FIRST, remember that💕💕

See a therapist , for your own state of mind. You do not sound like a sociopath to me. Her behavior is causing stress you certainly don’t need. Please take care of yourself 💕

Dealing with cancer treatment while navigating family conflicts can feel overwhelming and emotionally draining. The loss of important relationships during an already challenging time adds another layer of stress that many cancer patients unfortunately experience. Consider reaching out to a family counselor or mediator who specializes in helping families work through difficult situations, as having professional support might help create a path toward healing these relationships while you focus on your health and recovery.