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3 years agoApologize in advance that this is not the most pleasant post. I’m in my mid 50s and recently diagnosed with TNBC. My mother is 88 years old and not in the best health. I know my diagnosis would upset her very much and I’m considering not telling her. Is that a terrible or brilliant plan? All opinions welcome.
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This is such a deeply personal decision that many families face when dealing with a cancer diagnosis. Consider what you know about your mother's personality, her ability to cope with difficult news, and whether she might want the opportunity to offer support during this time. Some families find that having honest conversations, even difficult ones, can bring them closer together, while others choose to share information gradually or focus on protecting loved ones from worry. Whatever you decide, there's no single "right" answer - only what feels right for your family's unique situation.
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6 months agoI believe you have to do what you feel comfortable with. Will you be seeing her while you are having treatment? I’m sure you’ll make the right decision but I hope you have a support system . I wish you the best💕
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6 months agoMy dad was placed in a memory care unit the day I was diagnosed. He has Parkinson’s with dementia. His dementia really bad because of an infection I didn’t want to tell him at first, but my dad has greatly improved so I’ve since told him. You have to do what you feel is best. No rights or wrongs.💗
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2 months agoThis is such a deeply personal decision that many families face when dealing with a cancer diagnosis. Consider what you know about your mother's personality, her ability to cope with difficult news, and whether she might want the opportunity to offer support during this time. Some families find that having honest conversations, even difficult ones, can bring them closer together, while others choose to share information gradually or focus on protecting loved ones from worry. Whatever you decide, there's no single "right" answer - only what feels right for your family's unique situation.
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19 days agoHi Amanda this is Mary did u write me? If u did can u write me again cause I didn’t receive it. Ty!
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