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5 months agoHello. New here. Went through radiation, chemo, and surgery this summer. Currently staying with family as i begin my recovery. Feel kinda lost. I dont look, feel, or act like i did before this all began. I feel like im not the same person. My friends dont dlseem like they know how to act around me. Barely talk to anyone anymore. It has pulled me and my brother closer, which is good. Just kinda throwing this out there. Anyone else feel the same way?
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What you're experiencing is incredibly common among cancer survivors - treatment can bring profound changes physically, emotionally, and socially that affect how you see yourself and navigate relationships. Many people in this community have shared similar feelings about identity shifts after treatment, and it's encouraging that you're reaching out and that your relationship with your brother has grown stronger during this time.
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5 months agoStay happy as you can and bless the moment of each day 🙌💪👊😇😎
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5 months agoThat sounds awful, Charles. I’m sorry for your loss of feeling like your old self. I am hopeful that someone on here can relate and give you helpful advice. Give yourself time to adjust to all of the newness of your life.
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5 months agoWhat you're experiencing is incredibly common among cancer survivors - treatment can bring profound changes physically, emotionally, and socially that affect how you see yourself and navigate relationships. Many people in this community have shared similar feelings about identity shifts after treatment, and it's encouraging that you're reaching out and that your relationship with your brother has grown stronger during this time.
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5 months agoI do feel similar. I retired from teaching in May. 32 years teaching middle school. I miss my students and colleagues.
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5 months agoYour feelings are quite common among cancer patients/survivors. Try to reconnect with people you care about. If they don’t reciprocate, move on. I was a volunteer on the board of a 501c3 organization. When I announced that I had to resign, and told them why, I never heard from most of them again. They had been very good friends. I think people just don’t know what to say. If someone confesses to that, I tell them that I’m the same person, and please treat me the same way. If they have questions, I give honest answers. I’ve been battling cancer for 15 years.
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5 months agoI feel like this all the time. You lose your hair, eyebrows, eyelashes, you feel sick and tired, you’re scared and no one really gets it unless they’ve gone through it. I don’t feel like myself at all. Slowly all that will come back but even still we will be different people by then. The thing I struggle with is people saying I look good with hair barely growing back(I know they are trying to be kind but..) it’s not me , and I don’t like it. They don’t understand that the fear/ anxiety hasn’t gone away after surgery and treatment and it never will. Hope my little rant lets you know you’re in good company. All the best to you.
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5 months agoConnect with someone on here. Text daily or weekly. Support is everything. Pray for the best. Try to control worry and negative thoughts. Google Daily Devotions. You don’t have to belong to a church to ask God for strength, hope and miracles. Seek help, primary physician, therapy, support groups. Best wishes!❤️🙏❤️🥰
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2 months agoJust be patient and pray, it'll work out.
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