Is It Normal to Mourn My Breasts Before Mastectomy?

I understand the feeling I have 4 and breastfeed all of them but think of the fact that now they have something that is damaging your health.

I know but I kinda liked my boobs. My kids are all ok with my choice it's me wanting to remember.

I know the feeling 100%, I dreading it so much when I was diagnosed in November 2025. I liked my boobs. I just had a double mastectomy April 29 2025. My surgeon and plastic surgeon were in the OR together. They did nipping spearing on me. The way they cut me I will have very little scarring. They put in expanders, and filled with saline in the OR. A week later, the plastic surgeon filled again with saline. And then another week later, he filled again with saline the final time. Prior to surgery I had been through chemo to shrink my tumor, then had surgery. I will have radiation soon as well with the expanders in. About three days after surgery, I was dreading taking off the wrap, but I was amazed. My boobs look amazing and you cannot tell them from what I originally had And that’s just with the expanders. After radiation, I will have reconstruction surgery but so far I have been so impressed with the nipple sparing procedure. Never in my life would I’ve thought someone that had breast cancer could come out having better boobs than what I had before. (And before I had great boobs then too) 🤣 Wishing you the best of luck.

It’s totally normal to love your boobs. I had a boob voyage party, I wrote a poem and we take a boob cake. I miss my boobs bilateral double mastectomy 11/6/24 and I do miss my boobs. And that is ok! They did try to kill me, but it is normal. My youngest who is 5 still tells me she misses my boob. And I say “me too”

I had my double mastectomy with reconstruction 2 days ago and woke from the anaesthetic crying about missing my boobs. I had three sons that I nursed as well. Hoping they will look ok post reconstruction

Call it what it is "A AMPUTATION " At least for me. Those are my sentiments.

Absolutely that is normal ❤️

I had a DMX last November and I still mourn them. I fed both my babies and even though they are adults now, I still miss them

It's completely natural to feel this way about such a significant change to your body, especially when thinking about the meaningful experiences you've shared. Many people in this community have found it helpful to acknowledge these feelings as a normal part of preparing for surgery, and you're certainly not alone in having mixed emotions about this important step in your treatment journey.