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5 months agoI apologize in advance for taking up space here writing this but I’m going to be brutally and embarrassingly honest. I had the prostatectomy done on Monday July 7. During the end of the surgery my surgeon said that he made a big mistake and cut my rectum. This required an emergency Ileostomy. Not only do I have a Foley catheter I have a bulb drain tube and the Ostomy all for an undetermined amount of time. As I was told by both surgeons, at least til the end of the year. I have an extremely rare neuromuscular disorder called Issacs Syndrome or Neuromyatonia that I was diagnosed with in 2006. I eventually had to go on disability in December of 2017. In June 2025, I turned 67. I did not know until 2 weeks after my birthday that I was going to lose my Medicaid due to the rules being changed in the 1980 by congress. Now I’ve learned this affects all of and how I am covered by insurance. Like most seniors, we live a barely existent life. When I subscribed to United Healthcares Duel Complete, it gave me , us, an extra $295 a month credit for healthy food and medical expenses. Now Social Security will begin taking the $186 per month from my meager monthly payment plus over the next 2 months back fees for the Part B coverage for June and July along with the regular payment of $186 per month. I will also lose my Dual Complete coverage because I’m no longer considered disabled and am just a Social Security Retiree. I will lose what amounts to nearly $500 per month in “cash”. This also means I will be paying a higher copay of which I had none because Medicaid picked up the cost, for prescriptions, Doctor office fees, hospital fees etc. over the last 5 years I have had multiple surgeries to repair torn tendons and ligaments, esophageal stretching spine surgery gallbladder, just to name a few. The kicker is my wife “had” to retire from Vanderbilt Medical Center in January because she was diagnosed with early onset dementia. She now has coverage from United Healthcare but her copays are outrageous. And of course any specialist she sees wants their money upfront before they will see her. The medication she is on is expensive but we were “alive” and getting by without owing anyone money. As I said in an earlier post I had to perform some emergency repairs the day, Friday the 11th, on our house. We have so called friends that always say, “If there is ANYTHING that you need, let us know!” Ha, all we have is each other. These “friends” want $$ for that “Anything you need “ offer. Well, with $5.38 to our names until our next SS check comes up n 3 weeks, I have to figure out how I’m going to dig our front yard up to repair a water line leak that our responsibility. We sure can’t afford to pay hundreds of dollars for our water bill let alone thousands to repair the leak. My point is that I no longer want to recover and would rather the cancer get so aggressive that it only takes a short time to do its deed. At least my wife will have my little bit more than her SS payments and the equity in our home to survive on.
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The combination of surgical complications and sudden financial upheaval creates an overwhelming burden that no one should face alone. When expressing thoughts about no longer wanting to recover, please reach out to the crisis hotline at 988 for immediate support during these dark moments. Many community members have found that connecting with local social services, patient advocacy programs, and organizations that specifically help with Medicare transitions can provide crucial assistance during these challenging times.
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4 months agoHi Stephen, I know there are times where everything is so overwhelming it feels easier to just go, but there is hope. Navigating the twists and turns of healthcare can be taxing and sometimes you just need a little information. Call your local welfare office and ask to apply for extra help. This will pay for your Medicare payment for your social security every month which it sounds like you qualify. Also while on the phone, maybe reapply for your benefits through them, now that your wife is no longer able to work. You both might be eligible for medical benefits in addition to your Medicare. It never hurts to try...it is only a phone call. I have been in your shoes...and I'm still learning and passing good information on to others. God Bless you and your family.
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4 months agoCheck with your local Dept of aging and your local social services department they may have some resources to for home repair and funds to help with bills coming in and food pantry locations. I hope this helps.
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4 months agoI am so sorry we are waiting to hear if my husbands Medicaid will be discontinued, we are both 79 I still work 2 days a week, My husband is not well he has lost 25 Lbs and we still don’t know why. I feel your pain , did you call a lawyer? If not please consider it. You have rights and the Dr made a mistake that is causing you pain . I am sending hope and prayers to you and your wife💙🙏💙
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2 months agoIf I were you, I would definitely be calling an attorney. That is malpractice. As to social security, there are Medicare programs that have zero $ plan premiums it depends on what state you live in. There is also extra help for low income seniors that assist in paying part of your prescription copays, some of mine are $0 some are $4.00 and some are $12.00 Someone said earlier to call your local aging office, and that should be your second call.
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2 months agoThe combination of surgical complications and sudden financial upheaval creates an overwhelming burden that no one should face alone. When expressing thoughts about no longer wanting to recover, please reach out to the crisis hotline at 988 for immediate support during these dark moments. Many community members have found that connecting with local social services, patient advocacy programs, and organizations that specifically help with Medicare transitions can provide crucial assistance during these challenging times.
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19 days agoFirst of all u need a good malpractice attorney. Than doesn’t ur wife have something called cobra. Thats something all insurance companies are supposed to give u 18 mons. U may have to pay but a least u’ll have insurance. Also check with this organizations that can help u with this. If u’re Jewish they have the Jewish federation that will help u and ur wife if not Jewish I’m sure u have non - profit organizations. But find that lawyer like now. I understand Morgan&Morgan are the best. Good luck feel better. Mary write me anytime. It’s also very rare that find people to help u cause most of them are full of crap!!!!!
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