Why am I grieving the loss of my bladder before cystectomy surgery?

It’s not silly and you are allowed to feel how you feel. I am deeply sorry that this is happening to you regardless of your age. All of this is hard to accept. I myself struggle with accepting my own path and treatments with all the side effects. I have a customer who has had one for 7 years and has no issues. It’s the mental thing that is the hardest to deal with I think. I might suggest watching some videos on it or even some tik tok people who have them. It makes it easier to understand and relate too then medical staff explaining things. At least it’s helped me. Just allow yourself your feelings and cry when you need to. God bless and you are in my prayers.

The grief you're experiencing is completely normal and valid - losing any part of yourself, especially one that's been with you your whole life, naturally brings up complex emotions even when the surgery is medically necessary. Many people going through similar procedures find that acknowledging these feelings, rather than dismissing them as silly, is an important part of processing this major life change. You're not alone in feeling this way, and this community understands the emotional weight of what you're facing.