Are Lupron and Casodex killing my sex drive completely?

These medications are known to commonly affect hormone levels and can significantly impact sexual desire and function - this is a very real side effect that many in this community experience. It's completely understandable to feel concerned about these changes, and discussing them with your healthcare team can help you understand what to expect and explore options for managing this side effect during your treatment journey.

I’m taking some of the same things I am ready to go rogue on my treatment and do my own thing

I am on hormone deprivation therapy as well. I am getting Eligard injections. Which they refer to as chemical castration. Pretty brutal terminology. I to have reduced sexual desire. With enough effort and Cialis I can get an erection. However, achieving an orgasm is next to impossible. It has happened twice in the last 18 months. It wasn’t worth the struggle. The orgasm was at best 10 percent the sensation that it was before. Virtually no actual ejaculation. I am told by my doctor that this distinction will decrease with time after the hormone deprivation therapy is over. But since I am 75 Dr said my sexual recovery will be slower than a younger guy and may not happen at all. Prior to prostate cancer diagnosis 18 months ago I was still quite sexually active with my wife. The good news in this for you and me is that all of this will save us from a long slow death from metastatic cancer. I will give up my sex life for that.