How can I find motivation to say goodbye while battling depression?

My therapist and I talked a lot about the stages of grief. That eventually helped. I came to realize that every single person living today is also dying it just might happen for them on a different time frame. And they might not have the privilege that I do of saying goodbye to every person I love in exactly the way I want them to hear it.

Hi Jasmine. I’m new to this site and I see that you posted this a while back, so hopefully this is still helpful? After my MBC diagnosis last year I spent a lot of time asking my therapist this exact same question. She helped me understand that the memories and connection you have (especially with your children) will be a legacy every bit as powerful as any letters or things that you leave. So in the beginning I tried to stay focused on just showing up and being present and connected with my daughter whenever possible. Bit by bit, my emotional and physical health have become more stable and I’ve been able to do more. I made it my New Year’s resolution to take more family photos together. Next I’m hoping to start working on a journal for my daughter. Small steps and take it one day at a time.

Depression can make even the most meaningful tasks feel overwhelming, and many in this community understand how exhausting grief and sadness can be during this time. Consider starting small - perhaps just a few sentences at a time when you feel able, or asking your husband or sister to help you get started by sitting with you. The community here has shared that finding peace often comes gradually, and there's no pressure to create perfect goodbyes when your love for them already speaks volumes.