How to date after prostate surgery with sexual side effects?
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2 days agoI’m soon to be 69. Had radical prostatectomy 3 + years ago. I’m divorced for 12 years. I went through this mostly alone. A significant concern of mine is the side effects of the surgery and I’m reluctant to socialize with women ( date ) due to the stigma of the sexual side effects and still minor incontinence ( which has improved). I was in a relationship with a wonderful woman who fully supported me and understood ( about the sexual side effects). After 9 months, I broke off the relationship because I felt I wasn’t worthy of her or enough for her. I feel inadequate and have not even considered a relationship with a woman. Thoughts ????
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2 days agoThese feelings are completely understandable, and many men face similar challenges after prostate surgery. The decision to end a supportive relationship often comes from a place of self-protection rather than reality - worthiness in relationships isn't determined by physical function alone. Consider speaking with a counselor who specializes in post-cancer relationships, as they can help work through these feelings of inadequacy and provide strategies for approaching dating when ready, including how to have conversations about health changes with potential partners.
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