Why am I angry with my husband during cancer treatment?

Might be the side effects of the meds you’re on. Talk to your doctor about it.

Maybe you're not mad at him so much as you're just plain mad. Cancer will do that to you!! He may be your "safe place" to direct that anger since he sounds like he loves you and is there for you. Maybe you have some resentment that he doesn't have cancer. You might try writing down everything and anything you're angry about and see how much of that is really specific to him. Talk to a counselor or therapist and they'll help you sort out your feelings. This can pass!

A lot of people ( most) do not know how to engage or talk to someone who is sick with a deadly disease. This includes family and friends and very close loved ones, as well as spouses. It’s part of the curse of having this dreaded disease. Most of us have that secret fear of ever being diagnosed, so when a person who is close to you is diagnosed, the initial response from many is to shrink away from perhaps being asked to take you to the doctor, watching your pets or your children, maybe help with surmounting medical bills, it can be many different reasons. It is a human weakness. You will really find out who your true friends are if you are diagnosed and suddenly the phone calls, tests, and visits dwindle down to nothing. It is a very sad, disheartening, and frightening time for us all, and this is when we really need true help from true friends and family. My advice is once you get past your initial shock and ensuing very high anxiety, contact them and let them know you are ok, and you are doing as best as you can under the circumstances, but you are the same person, nothing has changed, and don’t belabor them with every detail of your diagnosis and treatments, unless they ask and really want to know. Most people are afraid to be close to people who are very ill because they don’t want to lose a friend or a family member…..they to are shocked to hear of your diagnosis. That is a normal response. Assure them of what is going on. They invariably know a few others who have gone down this road and if the timing is right and the stars above line up correctly, they will come through for you. The most unexpected friends and family members will come through for you. I wish you peace of mind, and only then will your restless spirit find the calm that is so very much needed to heal.

Feeling angry or wanting space during cancer treatment is actually very common, even when your partner is being supportive. Cancer can bring up intense emotions and stress that sometimes get directed at the people closest to you, and it's completely normal to have complicated feelings about physical touch during this difficult time. Many others in the community have shared similar experiences, so you're definitely not alone in feeling this way.