What's it like living with stage II bladder cancer treatment choices?

I have stage II bladder cancer, and I'm learning about three treatment paths: bladder removal surgery (cystectomy), radiation therapy, and bladder-preserving therapy. Bladder removal is often paired with drug treatment before or after. Bladder preservation combines a tumor removal procedure, radiation, and chemotherapy over about six to seven weeks, so a person may keep their bladder. I'd love to hear from others who have faced a similar choice. - If you've had one of these treatments, what was the experience like for you day to day? - What do you wish you had known before you started? Thank you for sharing anything that comes to mind.