How can I cope with a radical vulvarectomy for melanoma?

Hi Lori I underwent a modified vulvarectomy in May. It is definitely a change in appearance. I still have difficulty with it, but I am thankful that the cancer was removed. I believe in time I will accept the body changes. I don’t feel like a freak, just know that I am different now. At age 60, I am use to having all my parts. Lol. I was offered reconstructive surgery and declined. Surgery was tough and recovery was not as fast as I would have liked, I am nearing the end of my chemo/radiation treatments and I am glad!! I will most likely seek counseling when I am healed to help deal with all the challenges facing me.

I'm scheduled for the same thing on 10/6. Watching your post. Best of luck.

Kelly one thing that I want to tell you is to wait the 6 weeks healing before you think that it is going to look like that permanently. There is a lot of swelling and stitches. I am also going to start a body image support group in a couple of days. I’ll let you know how that goes.

Can anyone say how long they were in the hospital after vulvectomy surgery?

1 day but everyone is different.

WOW! I read the average stat was like 19 days! Freaked me out a little.

That is what I was told initially also. But they took out the foley and let me go.

But did you feel like you should've gone home then? Were you good at home? Any home health care?

I felt ok going home. Still a little groggy. No home health care. I had family take care of me. But up walking from the very beginning. Watch climbing stairs.

Facing major surgery like this brings up so many valid concerns about body image and self-acceptance afterward. Many people in this community have walked similar paths and found ways to rebuild confidence and maintain healthy relationships with their bodies post-surgery. Consider connecting with others here who may have similar experiences, and don't hesitate to ask your care team about resources for emotional support during recovery - you deserve all the help available to navigate this challenging time.