Has your spouse left you during metastatic breast cancer treatment?

OMG I’m so sorry! That is awful! Sending hugs and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

A nurse friend shared a terrible statistic with me on this topic. Not sure where it came from or if it's entirely accurate, but she said that when men are diagnosed with a chronic illness, their female partners are 6 times more likely to stay. When women are diagnosed with a chronic illness, their male partners are 6 times more likely to leave. I'm so sorry if you are going through that situation. 😞😭

Thank you

Dale, one of my friend's husband left her and their teenage autistic daughter. Carol has passed since.

My partner of 3 years ghosted me. It hurt so much also finding out having stage 4. Don’t make promises you can’t keep humans!

Aww Briana. I am so sorry that happened. Stay strong. You have support from all of us here as we are all in the same boat. Some people cannot deal with loss of life or health. They are not courageous but you are a warrior and you will beat this.

I am sorry to hear this. That is so hurtful. Sending you a big hug and sending you virtual love from this community❤️. You matter and you are important to us and to your loved ones. Please allow yourself time to heal over this (take your time). Most importantly focus on your health. Please make that your priority. 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼

That sucks!! He doesn’t deserve you! I’m so sorry you are going through this along with dealing with your cancer. You are in my prayers. God. Bless

I was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer 14 1/2 years ago. With Covid my spouse of 37 years said he didn’t even like me, he didn’t think the marriage was going to work, and he didn’t want to try. He wanted to find his voice and go internal. I think my cancer profoundly affected our relationship. It wasn’t fun for him. Obviously there was more to it but the stats are stunning with divorce if the wife has cancer compared to when the husband has cancer. We were married 38 years. We divorced, something I never imagined in my wildest dreams for mg life. I was very committed to marriage to him. But I couldn’t maid him want to bd married to me. I move states to be closer to family for support. That meant me starting totally new as a single person. It was crazy stressful. And had to set up my medical care. He had someone who didn’t have cancer waiting immediately in the wings. It’s all pretty traumatic. I know other women that this has happened to. So yes this happens far more statistically for women with cancer. I have reached out for support and given myself tons of grace as I slowly heal. You need a lot of grace, patience , and kindness for yourself. With love and support, Susan

I divorced my husband, after 34 years, after my treatment for BC in 2009. He was not supportive and I deserve better. It was the best decision I ever made. I know it’s hard now, but a couple years from now you may come to see he did you a favor. 4 years ago I began a relationship with a wonderful man. He knew my cancer history and planned special celebrations for my cancer anniversary every year. Then in March i was diagnosed as metastatic. Recurrence with Mets after 18 years. My significant other has been understanding, kind and caring. He goes to every appointment with me, just to hold my hand. He makes sure I eat and rest, but we continue also to go out and have fun, to enjoy and celebrate every day. He’s a keeper. We all deserve this from our partners. I hope you find it too.

My partner of 18 years left 2 years ago. He left with no warning, ghosted me and I still haven't heard from him.

You find out the character of the people closest with you when The going gets rough. I have had a very supportive family and supportive friends thank the Lord after getting this devastating diagnosis If you are not that fortunat to have companionship and support Please know that you have the power to fight for your health and happiness and cancer can’t diminish you only make you stronger spiritually. Let us support you anyway we can sending prayers and love 🙏❤️

This is such a difficult situation that unfortunately some people in the cancer community face. Relationship changes during serious illness can add tremendous emotional burden to an already challenging time. Many community members have shared similar experiences and found strength in connecting with others who truly understand what they're going through. Consider reaching out to share more about your experience - this community is here to offer support and understanding during this tough period.

I’m sorry to hear that. What a fool lack of a better name but I think u get the message. U’re supposed to stay with the person for sickness and in health not copy out. After that being said my husband lost his first wife to breast cancer 5 months before I met him. This goes back almost 20 yrs. ago. When we first met he asked if I was going to get sick when we got together? My answer was I hope not. Well we were married 7 yrs. when my hell started. Breast cancer with chemo and radiation. Of course I lost all my hair and so I wouldn’t feel bad he shaved his head also. I went 8 yrs after that in remission and all during that time I assisted that the markers were every 3 mons. and pet-scan be done at the same time. So needless to say 4 yrs ago the pet-scan lite up on my spine and of course the markers went flying. So here we went again. A tumor resting on the spine and pain like u wouldn’t believe. So now after trying pill after pill I’m back in chemo. I’ve been very blessed and fortunate to have my husband. I feel badly for u. Did u have any other support short of all the great girls on here? If u would like I’ll give u my phone no. and we can talk anytime. Where do u live? I’m in Fl. Let me know if u need to talk. My name is Mary. Good Luck and best wishes to you.